They Will Know We are Christians by Our T-Shirts


“They will know we are Christians by our t-shirts!”

I remember first seeing this parody of a well-known Christian anthem several years ago in college on a bumper sticker.  Since then, I’ve seen the jab a few times on the internet and ironically once on an actual t-shirt (its owner looked proud).

But the slogan stirred some initial discomfort inside of me, and I think it has sat in my subconscious ever since.  See, I came to an authentic awakening in my Christian faith because of a dynamic youth ministry program during my high school years, and thus transformed into the Jesus-shirt and scapular-sporting young man throughout my college years, until I came upon this particular bumper sticker.  The moment lasted but a second, but it forced me to reflect on some uncomfortable questions:  Do people only know that I believe in Christ because of how I dress?  Has my faith truly transformed me internally, or is this just a naïve, external bubble?  I didn’t want it to be so.  Hence I pulled a Spider-Man 2 (Tobey Maguire, not Garfield what’s-his-name) and valiantly threw down my exterior costume, hoping to infiltrate the culture as a “normal guy” and prove that my love of Christ could become self-evidently radiant through my actions and not external garb.

As Catholics, we love to fall back on that wonderful expression long (and perhaps falsely) attributed to St. Francis of Assisi: “Preach the Gospel at all times, and if necessary, use words.”  We have to walk the walk before we ever open our mouths to witness.  And certainly our out-and-out earthly model (and ever humble “Man of the Year”) of this restless evangelization is our own current shepherd—Pope Francis.  There’s no such thing as a “private faith,” a faith that sits at home and is divorced of my public life, according to the Pope’s latest work, Evangelii Gaudium (EG):


You go, girl.

Consequently, no one can demand that religion should be relegated to the inner sanctum of personal life…Who would claim to lock up in a church and silence the message of St. Francis of Assisi or Blessed Teresa of Calcutta?  They themselves would have found this unacceptable.  An authentic faith—which is never comfortable or completely personal—always involves a deep desire to change the world, to transmit values, to leave this earth somehow better than we found it. (EG, #183).

Yes!  Go, Francisco go!  Let’s change the world!

But that lovely “use words when necessary” hides the slithery, silent temptation countless Catholics and I fall into again and again: “never open your mouth.”  “I’ll be a nice person, give to the poor, but I don’t want to talk about Jesus.  I don’t want to impose anything on anybody.”  That bumper sticker convicted me rightly—to act and serve the Lord quietly—but I went too far and became too timid.

The odd thing about Jesus Christ is that He angers people.  You can’t talk about the guy and expect a civil conversation.  People usually get weird or give you that uneasy look that seems to say, “You actually believe in Jesus? Oh no. A real Christian.”   I’ve regrettably chosen complacent silence over boldly witnessing many times.  Even when I was in seminary, I would dread those wonderfully superficial conversations that tend to happen on airplanes.  If I failed to put my headphones on in time, here’s how it would usually go:

Very small school.

Very small school.

“What do you do?”

“I’m in school.”

“Oh, where at?”

“In Miami.  It’s a very, very small school.”

“What are you studying?”


“Really?  [Insert confused look here] What for?”

Now if the conversation got to this point, I would have to discern whether to drop the “I am in formation for the Catholic priesthood” line.  If I did, one of three responses would occur from my seatmate:

1).  The awkward: “Oh…that’s…interesting. So you really don’t want to have sex, huh?”

2).  The irritated (and usually wounded):  “Really?  Let me now tell you all the things I hate about the Catholic Church…”

3).  Or, the unexpected but receptive:  “Wow!  That’s cool.  What’s it like?”

As a lay man now in the vocation of marriage, I’m back in the role of the covert, secret-agent Christian who dresses and externally looks like everyone else (well, everyone with a beard).  Clergy and religious—the ones who really embrace their vocations—can’t help but joyfully display their exteriors: the habits, the collars, and the awesome Birkenstock friar sandals.  But we, the laity, have to decide how we will visibly incarnate our invisible faith, especially to the increasingly atheist, neo-pagan Western world that grows more hostile to outward religiosity with every year that passes.  We absolutely need internal conversion and a life cultivated on the virtues, but, as Pope Francis entreats us, we need to be joyful witnesses to the world.

unitycrossSmallIt’s been on my heart these past several months (and it kept recurring in prayer) to start wearing a cross again.  I decided that it was time to overcome the condemnation of that stupid bumper sticker.  I love the Schöenstatt cross (also called the Unity or Nuptial cross).  Originating in Chile during the 1950s, the cross depicts Mary at the foot of Jesus’ crucifixion, receiving the outpouring of his blood and symbolizing (among many other points) the redemption of the New Adam and the New Eve.   It’s also the cross that Mother Teresa (also a worthy model of boldness) adopted for her Missionaries of Charity.  I put the cross in my Amazon wish list and there it sat for four months.  I was too lazy to pay the $11.

Now I didn’t tell anyone about this cross, not even Jackie.  It just kept coming up in prayer and it continued to sit in my Amazon account.  I’ll get around to it someday.   I went on a retreat at the beginning of January, and halfway through I received a letter from a co-worker who was praying for me.  Inside the letter was the Schöenstatt cross.  I did a triple-take:  “Ok, God…this is weird.  Very weird.”  I put the cross on immediately (I didn’t want to be smote by the Almighty).  Since then I’ve gotten a few comments on the street, in an elevator, and one fellow gym rat’s exclaim, “Dude!  You’re Catholic?  Where do you go to Church?”

We should cultivate an interiorly strong, intimate, and private faith built on quiet prayer and humility.  We should also outwardly toil with our hands to feed to poor, clothe the naked, and defend life in all its stages, womb to tomb.  It’s a “both/and”—“faith without works is dead” (James 2:17).  Our private faith must, as Pope Francis affirmed, organically spill out into our public personas, unless of course we (1) are ashamed, embarrassed, or indifferent to it, or (2) we don’t really believe it.

When asked the question, “Is Christianity dying?” in a recent interview, pastor Rick Warren noted that,

“Cultural Christianity is dying. Genuine Christianity is not. The number of cultural Christians is going down because they never really were Christian in the first place. They don’t have to pretend by going to church anymore.”

The age of lukewarm Christianity is ending.  Battle lines are being drawn.  America is trending towards a secular, atheistic state with each year that slides by.  Christians must decide whether to take a stand or silently assimilate into our neo-pagan culture.  Benedict XVI prophesied that our Church may have “to become small” again, small as Christianity’s humble first communities, but if so we are still called out into the world, not to merely “blend in.”

Introverts and extroverts alike, put on the armor of God and be ready for persecution—it’s a matter of when, not if.  “If the world hates you, realize that it hated me first” (John 15:18). Be bold in your actions and in your love.  Stop apologizing for being Christian.  Oh…and wear your Jesus shirts if you got ‘em.

Joshua 24: 15: “Choose now. As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.”

St. Thomas More, patron of lawyers and inspirer of all Christians to grow some cojones, pray for us!



  One thought on “They Will Know We are Christians by Our T-Shirts

  1. January 21, 2014 at 11:39 am


  2. January 21, 2014 at 1:03 pm

    I’ve outgrown all my Christian t-shirts (they kind of shrink around the midsection you know…) but I’m thankful for your piece here to-day! Another confirmation from God’s Spirit that i need to wholesale sell out for Him!!
    God bless!

  3. January 21, 2014 at 3:16 pm

    Beautiful post, Bobby. Really makes me look at the way I live my faith in my life.

  4. January 21, 2014 at 3:17 pm

    This is a perfect post, Bobby. It really makes me look at how I live my faith in my life. Great job, and God bless!

  5. Carli
    January 21, 2014 at 11:33 pm

    Thank God for Bobby and Jackie, this world could use a few more Angels;) I am so thankful for the constant inspiration brought on by you two!

  6. Adam
    January 22, 2014 at 4:04 am

    Excellent post! As a lay adult who works in the secular world, I really needed to hear this. We hear all the time that we have to proclaim the gospel but we’re never told how. Please write more on this topic if can. Thanks and a God bless!

  7. January 22, 2014 at 6:54 am

    Love your prayer at the end. St. Thomas More is my patron saint, but I never thought to address him that way… love the irony! :-) God bless you. We will all need cajones when the persecution picks up in earnest.

  8. January 23, 2014 at 4:22 pm

    Where does one buy one of those crosses? I’m having trouble finding it. Great article!

  9. Mary Elizabeth
    January 25, 2014 at 6:10 am

    Pray for me Jackie and Bobby, pray God would send me a good man of God. Love u both…………..MaryBeth from Boston Ma

  10. Majo (from Argentina)
    January 25, 2014 at 1:31 pm

    Love your posts, Bobby!! You write beautifully and with so much depth!

    • January 25, 2014 at 2:39 pm

      Thank you, Majo! Jackie and I write when the Spirit moves and strive to always bring depth to the conversation. God bless!


  11. Miranda
    February 2, 2014 at 9:02 am

    Praise the Lord! It was in my third year university when I decided to outwardly “wear” my faith. I had gone to Steubenville, Ohio for my first youth conference, and purchased a chastity ring in the campus bookstore. It represented a promise to the Lord and to myself. Though the words on it have faded since then, the message still resonates in my heart–True Love Waits. Thank you for such an encouraging post, Bobby. May the Lord continue to Bless you and Jackie with His unending graces, mercy, and love.

  12. Julie
    February 6, 2014 at 4:26 pm

    Very interesting blog with many branches of thought. I enjoyed it much though, and can relate to the question of “Am I really living the faith or just wearing it?” I don’t know if she told you, but Jackie used to wear that Go Nutty for Jesus shirt in college. I thought at first that she was the author of this article until I read on a little more. haha.

    Interesting fact: the Fr. Kolbe Missionaries also adopted this cross for all the professed missionaries and lay volunteers in our Institute. I have a wall version hanging in my room (used to hang in my office when I was a YM). I am looking forward to the day of my profession and a life of Consecration to God, exteriorly symbolized by this crucifix.

  13. April 9, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    Is it bad that we printed t-shirts about several of the points and topics you discuss in your blog (this was before I saw your blog)? ;) Grace and peace! Erik @

  14. Joella
    May 10, 2014 at 8:46 am

    I read your post when you wrote it and loved the schoenstatt cross, so naturally I saved the picture and completely forgot about it. Now that it is mother’s day weekend, it occurred to me that this would be a great addition to my mom’s beautiful cross wall! I have found some hanging schoenstatt crosses online, but none as pretty as the colorful one featured in this post! Could you tell me where you found that one because if it is available I would LOVE to buy one! Thank you!

  15. Annie
    June 7, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    You an also order Schoenstatt Unity crosses from Hope Religious Store – Schoenstatt Movement of San Antonio. on facebook Hope religious store, go to the crucifix photo album.

  16. Shane
    October 17, 2014 at 10:28 pm

    Honestly, I came up with this independently about 5 years ago. My sons had come home from some kind of faith/youth group event with fancy new t-shirts, and (of course) were fighting about something. So I started singing, “and they’ll know we are Christians by our t-shirts …”.

  17. Amanda. D
    March 10, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    Your blog posts are so inspiring. I really enjoy how real they are and how you both speak from the heart, love the sense of humor and how you guys don’t sugar coat your words nor your beliefs. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences… God bless you all so very much. I hope you guys have another conference or retreat in Canada some time soon :)

    • Amanda. D
      March 10, 2015 at 3:32 pm

      Me again, lol, I forgot to mention how I copy paste almost every other sentence from your blogs, it’s just so well written and extremely well said, don’t worry I just keep them in a neat email folders, no plagiarism here (I think) hehehe. Also, you guys are such a beautiful couple, I pray I find my soul mate someday as we partake on our journey to live in faith, living for God together. I read this awesome motto in “Bible Reflections for Women” by Mindy Ferguson, the motto was JOY. Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last. I pray to live in by this motto for the rest of my life

  18. August 28, 2021 at 12:11 pm

    What a beautiful writing. Thank you for mentioning the Schoenstatt Unity Cross. It is very dear in our houseld with our family and friends.

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