But you know what? I am so excited to be an “Angel.” Not because of the cool, fake-rock-star name appeal, but because my future husband, Bobby Angel, is a freaking rockstar himself. No, not because he’s the bass player for U2 (that’s not true; although he does play bass and wishes he was in U2), but because with him I am the woman I’ve always wanted to be.
In fact, EVERY girl deserves a Bobby Angel. Although you may not have the cool last name (it might be “Floofenhafen”), you deserve a guy who helps you become the woman of God YOU were meant to be.
When I was 18, I fell in love with THE Bridegroom, Jesus Christ. Jesus became the one who satisfied every longing of my heart. I always knew for my vocation, I was looking not for the perfect man—that’s Jesus alone—but the “Best Man,” the second to Jesus, and the one who would help me run the race towards the goal of Heaven. This “Best Man” would be the best man for me, the man with whom I could be my goofy, crazy, intellectual, sometimes loud, sometimes contemplative, adventurous, Catholic self. As Mark Hart once said about my future husband, “He’s going to be a man to be reckoned with.”
Mark sure was right. I found that man in Bobby Angel. It took 28 years of a lot of heartbreak, a lot of purification of my heart, and a TON of prayer for God to finally bring him in my life. But Bobby Angel IS a man to be reckoned with. Why? Because He’s passionately in love with Christ, the Church, and the Eucharist. He is consecrated to Our Lady and is a man who prays the Rosary and attends daily Mass. Not only is he humble and pure of heart and body, but he is real man—a man who defends the dignity of women, life, and marriage. He is no wimp or “nice” church guy. He is a stinking warrior and will wrestle any bear or heretic to defend his faith, his woman, or his family.
This is not just my story, though. Every Catholic married woman I admire has a “Bobby Angel”-like guy for a husband: a man who loves her in her faults and craziness, a man who respects her body, mind and soul, a man who is on the same page with her spiritually/intellectually/emotionally/physically, a man who she can laugh with and be child-like with, a man cares deeply about her well-being and holiness, and a man who loves with God’s love.
I know tons of amazing men of God. Clearly I’m only called to marry one of them. You, ladies, are called to marry one of them, too (if you’re called to marriage, that is). Don’t settle because you are afraid of being alone, or because you don’t believe you’re worth being loved like this. EVERY girl deserves a “Bobby Angel.” Start praying for him now. Start falling in love with the True Bridegroom, Jesus Christ, and someday Jesus will give you His best man—the best man for you.
I will pray for you, my sisters, to know how good and beautiful you are, and to know that God has an amazing plan for you. You are not forgotten or alone. You deserve the best. With the help of the lady saints (who knew well God’s love for them), let us pray to know this.
Mother Mary, St. Philomena, St. Therese of Lisieux, St. Teresa of Avila, St. Mary Magdalene, St. Maria Goretti, St. Catherine of Siena, St. Agatha, St. Cecilia, St. Lucy, St. Clare of Assisi, St. Gianna Boretta Molla, Blessed Teresa of Calcutta, And all holy men and women, pray for us.